tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19211835.post28545563713094605..comments2008-02-05T13:25:58.227-05:00Sharon because it had to be said!http://www.blogger.com/profile/00729464563424302375noreply@blogger.comBlogger11125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19211835.post-24129529942072221752008-02-05T13:25:00.000-05:002008-02-05T13:25:00.000-05:00oh what happened to my post.Shaihttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09049949734768494039noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19211835.post-63299655268578037522008-02-05T11:54:00.000-05:002008-02-05T11:54:00.000-05:00Well you know...I have always thought of weaves as accesories...Having always had long think azz hair...Sometimes it was nice to change it up!<BR/><BR/>It's strikes me as funny when poeple speak negative about weaves. That the person wearing them is trying to be this or that. How is it different than say a culture that admires tattoos, or paints their faces even blacker or adds rings to their necks?....we all have different ways of making ourselves feel attractive and I don't think it matters how we do it. <BR/><BR/>One of the best things I liked about the India Arie video was her trying on the different hairstyles and not only looking fabulous in them but completely comfortable. I, like others, was guilty of only seeing her in the "earth mother" character...dreadlocks or natural hair and minimal makeup. It was seeing her in a weave that finally made me see her in a different light. It also made me (although I am completely comfortable in my own choices for my appearance) feel better about choosing to wear a weave despite the negative backlash.<BR/><BR/>Last point- My husband loves my weaves. Unlike most black men, he loves the different variety and looks that I (and he) get to play with. I have never put much stock in what a man wanted me to look like...as long as I was always Diva...whether in my hair...or some hair I brought!<BR/><BR/>Granted a weave is not for everyone...and lord knows some folks just go overboard...but I certainly don't think that folks should hate on them constantly....DJhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13697417661221830348noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19211835.post-80500541456184161912008-02-05T00:32:00.000-05:002008-02-05T00:32:00.000-05:00@ Ladylee: Finally I get my microphone back...Now can I get that damned semi-retired crap removed from my link on your blogroll? Huh? Huh? How 'bout it? :)<BR/><BR/>@ Sojourner G: Oh my how you make me blush! I have to admit that coming here and finding a comment such as that one simply reinforces that I am at long last on the right track and brothas like the one I hope to find one day do indeed exist. Your SO is a very lucky individual and so am I just to have had you cross my path! AND you used scripture from Proverbs to make your point...just the kind of woman I strive to be ;)<BR/><BR/>@ Safa of the clever word games: I'm loving that you got into the groove with the word play...Ain't nothing like having something <B><I>PERMeate</I></B> the membrane and penetrate to the core!<BR/><BR/>@ Chele: Thanks for stopping by...as I wrote this, I thought of you b/c last week in one of your posts you spoke of possibly cutting your hair off b/c of your frustrations with it...been there/DONE THAT! :)<BR/><BR/>@ Nikki: That is one of those truths it would be so great if we were BORN KNOWING!<BR/><BR/>@ DJ Diva: In the time I have known you, you have been in and out of weaves so many times I have lost count. Do YOU girl...whatever that be! As far as napps, I assure you that is completely relative just like everything else and my head is an equal opportunity employer and does not discriminate as you can find strands of all textures from wavy to curly to down-right MANDINKA and I LOVE, LOVE, LOVE each and every one of them FINALLY!<BR/><BR/>@ Rose: I am so glad you stopped by! I have been missing you an awful lot these days ;) I feel you on the braid removal followed by perm...been there done that too...OUCHIEEEEEEEEE! I really believe at this point that we all need to just figure out what it is we are comfortable with and go with that. I refuse to become one of those natural hair fanatics who look down their noses at those who use chemicals. My decision works for me and it is that simple! Send me an email if you get a chance; I'd love to have you join me to attend the Book party for Bloggers' Delight at Lucas Park Grille here in the Lou on 2/23...my Bday by the way ;)<BR/><BR/>@ RPM: What can I say to my much more beautiful twin other than thanx as always for stopping by and leaving some of your grace :)Sharonhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00729464563424302375noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19211835.post-67742241878007194172008-02-04T18:42:00.000-05:002008-02-04T18:42:00.000-05:00Beautiful. Your post, the energy within it, and your loveliness.RPMhttp://rpm.vox.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19211835.post-73819133347314630082008-02-04T15:04:00.000-05:002008-02-04T15:04:00.000-05:00Sharon you are so right. This past weekend I removed my braids and decided to wear my hair. First thing I did was put a perm in my hair. Now my head is blistered all over. I have a sensitive scalp but I do not like myself with natural hair. Our hair is tied into our self esteem. When I see all the women wearing weave, I know that this is true. I don't think people are ready to admit that wanting long hair is the reason we do everything to our heads, but I think if we really assess ourselves as you did we would get the same results. Enlightening indeed.Rosehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13037132101026488589noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19211835.post-37906846227302067742008-02-04T12:57:00.000-05:002008-02-04T12:57:00.000-05:00I hate doing my hair now...so I can't imagine what it would be w/o a relaxer!!!!!<BR/><BR/>But I like your hair Sharon...it doesn't look like napps to me....<BR/><BR/>It's so funny that I read this post today...when i put on my first half weave...in a year!!!!!<BR/><BR/>I got a Hair Piece! LOLDJ Divahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00451826686021671892noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19211835.post-51364849913227208022008-02-04T11:19:00.000-05:002008-02-04T11:19:00.000-05:00I have no idea why Black women as a whole are obsessed with their hair, but if we can find the beauty within ourselves, how we wear our hair or how much of it is on our head, is not an issue.Nikkihttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03432654891017256333noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19211835.post-40447968743188954362008-02-04T10:41:00.000-05:002008-02-04T10:41:00.000-05:00Great insight. I really enjoyed this.chelehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15468273174800571759noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19211835.post-53799031204236462652008-02-04T10:12:00.000-05:002008-02-04T10:12:00.000-05:00I love this post. We do have hair issues and whenever you find hair peace, it's a good thing! And for real, it really does PERMeate our whole beings and how we carry ourselves.Safahttp://sepiatonz.blogsome.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19211835.post-61657598547222891292008-02-04T08:56:00.000-05:002008-02-04T08:56:00.000-05:00Many a treasure has been passed by, stepped on, completely missed and even discarded by those lacking the gift of discernment. <BR/><BR/>Ultimately, that is to their detriment and your preservation and the increasing of your value. You are the one who is "more precious than rubies" (Prov 3:15). Only he that recognizes the jewel in whatever form it may currently be, is worthy of the prize.Sojourner Ghttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03157026785627254353noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19211835.post-30728851827296211252008-02-04T07:05:00.000-05:002008-02-04T07:05:00.000-05:00What an assessment... <BR/><BR/>A microphone moment indeed...<BR/><BR/><I>*Lee cueing up India Arie's "I'm not my hair" on laptop*</I>LadyLeehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14895667783148669410noreply@blogger.com